Essential Feature # 2: Temptation Without Satisfaction
The word “tantalize” is a close cousin to “flirting” and means temptation without satisfaction.
“Tantalize” comes from the legendary Greek ruler Tantalus, whom Zeus condemned for eternity to stand in a pool of water beneath a fruit tree. Whenever he reached for fruit, the branches rose, preventing him from satisfying his appetite. Whenever he bent down to drink, the water receded, thwarting him from quenching his thirst. Each failed attempt at attaining fruit or water increased his desire.
The story of Tantalus resonated with the ancient Greeks because it revealed something endemic to human beings: temptation without satisfaction rouses desire in all of us.
To demonstrate this, I want you to try a little experiment: lightly brush your fingers against your arm for a split second. I’m willing to bet you felt a slight urge to itch your arm.
Here’s an example of how you can use temptation without satisfaction to stir up sexual arousal in women…
When it’s time kiss a girl, instead of going for the gold and thrusting your tongue down her throat, graze your lips against hers for a few seconds. Then pull back and give her a knowing smile.
She’ll return your smile with the same pouty face children make when their parents refuse to buy them the toy they’ve been drooling over for months.
Do this to her a few more times and she will grab you tightly and kiss you hard.
Is it cruel and unusual punishment to torture a poor damsel in distress like this ?
No no. Far from it.
This is flirting at its finest, and the kind of torture women love. That’s because temptation without satisfaction puts their sexual desire on steroids.
Moreover, it demonstrates to women that you know what you’re doing in the bedroom. Masterful lovers use temptation without satisfaction from the moment they meet a woman until sex (and during) to stoke the sexual fire in her loins and precipitate orgasm.
Josh Lubens, a dating expert, write under the penname Swinggcat and specializes in teaching men how to seduce and attract women. If you’d like to learn more about how to flirt with a girl, check out his website.
